tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post9025523148374110210..comments2024-02-14T22:34:39.106-05:00Comments on Cleveland Bachelor: Something for you to read, Part 19CBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00868356791228448949noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post-68713212549814001302009-06-18T02:27:47.869-04:002009-06-18T02:27:47.869-04:00"Diminished creativity" the result of th..."Diminished creativity" the result of thinking how good <i>IT</i> was, how good <i>IT</i> wasn't. What are we going to do this weekend? Will she enjoy this? Will she feel abandoned if I take some me time? and on and on and on... Meanwhile, nothing creative to build my projects or to contribute to the Clevo Blogosphere... sigh.<br /><br />"It's a decidedly couple-centric world out there." Sometimes I find myself contemplating marriage(out loud) OK a relationship, to the shock of my friends. Especially when I see a couple holding hands or sharing Tato Skins, happily. But just like a breeze the thought blows away when that visual is out of site.<br /><br />Yes, I am enjoying my single years and the drama that goes with it. I swear I truly sympathize with women if how the few females who are attempting to break my "Me Time"/Herbivore movement represent how guys chase the... Lay. I apologize if I even remotely was that aggressive.<br /><br />Off topic: 123Val bloggers like you and The Bachelor actually motivate me. Thanks for the visit! (Hope this wasn't bad ethics)<br /><br />Back to the lawn...Avenue Clevelandhttp://www.avenuecleveland.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post-34037432211197610812009-06-17T16:43:24.283-04:002009-06-17T16:43:24.283-04:00glad to know I'm not the only one who's en...glad to know I'm not the only one who's enjoying my single years and getting a lot out of them. <br /><br />Sometimes I'll have those moments where I'll get a little wistful but then how could I be doing everything that I get to do? Life is never boring, and there's just so much to experience, so many people to get to know...that girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12437960307212648550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post-69189267649013017842009-06-17T10:12:31.210-04:002009-06-17T10:12:31.210-04:00I think putting "not calling girls till 2010&...I think putting "not calling girls till 2010" on a t-shirt could make you a mint.<br /><br />I find your benched stance both fascinating and familiar. I'm single more often than I'm not, as I require seemingly more time to myself than most. <br /><br />It's tough to find someone who understands that "I need some time to myself" doesn't necessarily equal "I don't want to spend time with YOU." I just means I need a night to take a three-hour bubble bath, eat some 'tato skins and work on a jigsaw puzzle without explaining it to anyone. <br /><br />In fact, not sure how long the current boy will be able to hang in there for this very reason. As I get older, I find it increasingly difficult to apologize for being me.<br /><br />In any case, I applaud your stance. It's a decidedly couple-centric world out there. Hang tough.<br /><br />I'm gonna go read that article now and check out Avenue Cleveland, too. High five for the "diminished creativity" realization.123Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03839690906902959275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post-27957658239322679432009-06-17T09:49:18.058-04:002009-06-17T09:49:18.058-04:00So that's what I am? The answer was right in m...So that's what I am? The answer was right in my lawn!<br /><br />I'd add emotional support to the list. I fail miserably at offering that. I listen I evaluate whatever my mate/female friend was going through however, they just don't get the answers or responses they want. I try hard to accompany that but with very little success. Don't get me wrong I have female friends and we do go out, if she offers she covers if I offer I cover ( I can hear the boos of your female readers), but once the emotional banter crawls in I shut down and move camp. One of many reasons I have put anything romantic related on the back burner especially sex as this leads to unwanted emotional output and diminished creativity. <br /><br />See, I find that when I date (I am a black male who dates mainly black women for relational purposes. However, not exclusively) that many of the things I am interested in; Alt Rock if they even call it that anymore, Old Skool hip-hop, blogging and web surfing for information, novice photography, visiting different niche neighborhoods and clubs usually un-invaded by my ethnic counterparts, visiting every football arena, biking (Mountain and Urban) and so on; pose no interest to them. So yeah if dating means I have to adjust to someone else agenda or to be judged by my lifestyle choices? Then I am not ready for that just yet. One day just not now. I actually enjoy the time I spend with me and my friends.<br /> <br />Also as the article stated I too have a weird appreciation for Interior Decorating (still lacking in applying it tho) and I have slept with many a women in which we actually, you guessed it, slept... Does sound a wee bit strange writing and rereading this but you have to walk in my shoes to understand.<br /><br />Guess, Ill go eat some grass...Avenue Clevelandhttp://www.avenuecleveland.com/blog/noreply@blogger.com