tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post5533857163889403198..comments2024-02-14T22:34:39.106-05:00Comments on Cleveland Bachelor: Founding Myths and Modern RomanceCBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00868356791228448949noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post-37644737448416964762008-09-12T14:09:00.000-04:002008-09-12T14:09:00.000-04:00Matt,That's a good point. I think people feel more...Matt,<BR/><BR/>That's a good point. I think people feel more comfortable asking probing questions about couples (as opposed to the private life of an individual) because there is such a rich and nearly universally shared history of this mythology I've been talking about. Every couple has a story and, more importantly, by telling that story a couple's relationship becomes more real. Sort of like the tree falling in the woods, is a relationship a relationship if only the two people in it know about it? Anyway, I've never found those types of probing couple-oriented questions too discomforting (nor have I been averse to asking them), but I do sometimes get irritated when people get up in my business about stuff that is related to just me. Weird.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, good points.CBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00868356791228448949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post-80959989717063388872008-09-12T12:33:00.000-04:002008-09-12T12:33:00.000-04:00CB,For me in my last relationship, people always a...CB,<BR/><BR/>For me in my last relationship, people always asked for the story, but also wanted to know "when are you guys getting married."<BR/><BR/>And then after we were engaged, you'd think the pressure would be off, but then we hadn't set a date, so they start nagging you to find out "what date."<BR/><BR/>And then we broke up...ha - there went that happy ending...of course, now that I think about it, perhaps it really was a happy ending...I'm happy, happy is good!<BR/><BR/>On a related note, it always amazes me how many questions people will ask a couple that are really none of their business. Questions that might seem innocent to them, but to me, are rude and intrusive.<BR/><BR/>Matt/Addicted to VinylMatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15968252020608108201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post-79222519324667807972008-09-11T15:54:00.000-04:002008-09-11T15:54:00.000-04:00The way Jose and I met was slightly serendipitous ...The way Jose and I met was slightly serendipitous -- kind of like the domino effect, where the peices were in the right place to continue to fall in place. . .<BR/><BR/>And, for whatever reason people seem to ask us how we met each other <B>much</B> more than how Jose proposed to me -- our engagement story being the more interesting of the two*<BR/><BR/>-KellyKelly and Joséhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00085204696384660568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post-73505375163720972802008-09-11T12:49:00.000-04:002008-09-11T12:49:00.000-04:00Oh, I'm sure desperation occurs in all of these my...Oh, I'm sure desperation occurs in all of these myth typologies, but how many people actually admit that - to others, if not themselves - that desperation played a key role in landing (or being landed by) their current partner.<BR/><BR/>Now, down the road, yes, it is much easier to plead desperation.CBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00868356791228448949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post-81922122988261263132008-09-11T12:20:00.000-04:002008-09-11T12:20:00.000-04:00I hate to say it, but desperation? Or does that fi...I hate to say it, but <I>desperation</I>? Or does that fit into your humility category? LOLMelindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17463642420272248522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post-75611896843605941482008-09-11T12:02:00.000-04:002008-09-11T12:02:00.000-04:00That's perfect!Also, I didn't think about it befor...That's perfect!<BR/><BR/>Also, I didn't think about it before, but you are totally right about the engaged part. I've, ahem, never been engaged (much to the chagrin of my parents, who think I'm gay since I went to graduate school and don't have kids yet), but I know that I am guilty of asking the "how did he propose" question. I do think, though, that one the engagement/newlywed status wears off, the question reverts to "how did you meet?".<BR/><BR/>After my post, I thought a little more about it and decided that there are probably a limited number of categories for the relationship founding myth:<BR/><BR/>1) serendipity (i.e., if things hadn't worked out just perfectly, we never would have met)<BR/>2) implausibility (i.e., the confluence of events that led two otherwise totally different people to be together)<BR/>3) inevitability (i.e., we were in the same social/professional/religious/etc circles and had such shared interests, it was only a matter of time...)<BR/>4) Humility (i.e., we were going to have a one-night stand and I got so drunk and he held my hair while I puked and made me scrambled eggs and, well, here we are today...)<BR/><BR/>Any others?CBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00868356791228448949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4723725031816580207.post-27167065852641276642008-09-11T11:45:00.000-04:002008-09-11T11:45:00.000-04:00My ex and I met at a bar -- Shooters (save me from...My ex and I met at a bar -- Shooters (save me from embarrassment, please). <BR/><BR/>Our "meet cute" morphed from the "time we met at Shooters when I was with with my Dad" into the night of our "first date" when he thought I didn't like the steak he made or it was undercooked or something (which I like anyway, but whatever). He just didn't realize that I eat REALLY, REALLY slow. Which, of course, perpetuated the hokey narrative as we went along for another four years. <BR/><BR/>Truly interesting though, is once you're engaged, nobody cares so much for the "how we met" story; it turns to the "how did he propose?" and your initial meeting really loses its grand purpose. <BR/><BR/>Anyways, my grandparents have been together for over 60 years. I still love the story of how they first met. I think, mainly because my Nana tells it still with stars in her eyes.Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17463642420272248522noreply@blogger.com